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  • 3 Reasons to Stay Single After a Breakup

    “Try, try again…”

    “Dust yourself off and start all over again…”

    “Get right back on that horse…”

    These are just some common phrases we use to support the idea of trying again after a setback. And in many instances, this is the right attitude. Something is to be said about taking a break after a breakup.

    When you’ve ended a difficult marriage or relationship, you may feel like putting yourself back out there and starting to date again. But here are some reasons why it’s best to stay single for a while:

    1. You Need to Process

    The longer and more significant the relationship, the more events and feelings you’ll need to process. Dating can greatly distract you from your feelings, so you need to remain single for a while. It’s important to process your emotions regarding the relationship and the breakup. Ignoring your feelings will only cause them to rot.

    2. You Need to Learn

    Every heartbreak in life is an opportunity to learn a valuable lesson. Now is the time to think about what went wrong in the relationship and why. What was your part in it? What could you possibly do better? How will you choose your next partner based on your experiences? You must truly understand your relationship history to avoid making the same mistakes.

    3. You Need to Grow

    You can either bring an excessive amount of emotional baggage to your next relationship, or you can get a new version of yourself that is whole, healthy, and vital. Now is the time to nurture yourself and your passions. What hobbies have you been ignoring because of your broken relationship? Have you been wanting to take a night class? Learn a new language or travel more? The more time you spend on yourself now to grow as a human being, the more you will have to offer that next Mr. or Mrs. Right.

    Breakups are never easy, but they are often a part of life. The key is not to rush into the next relationship but to take some time to reflect on the one that just ended. What can you learn, and how can you grow?